Long-suffering – who wants to do this?

Long-suffering – who wants to do this?

Yet, long-suffering (or patient endurance) is a characteristic of those overflowing with the fruit of the Holy Spirit.

No long-suffering required when we choose to cut people out of our lives. “I’m done” is the mindset of many. I personally get this and I too have been “done,” undone and overwhelmed by the attitudes, actions, troubles and struggles of others at times. I have had extended opportunities to remain long-suffering with two very close beloved ones for two differing reasons, one of which was my own precious Mother. This was not her fault, but solely due to her battle with mental illness. There was long-suffering for her and those who loved her too. Her battle lasted her entire adult life from the time she was 19 years old. As an answer to many years of prayer, my Mother’s mental health and well being greatly improved in her latter years. For this I am thankful. She is now fully healed and restored in the presence of the Lord.

Every situation is different, and, yes, balance and boundaries may be necessary for everyone’s mental health and well being. Some bring long-suffering to themselves and others just by their poor life choices, totally unrelated to mental illness. Others may be suffering silently or have never had or accepted help.

We must make sure we are being led by God’s Spirit and not by the voices of self-centered cancel culture, or an insensitive “just get it together” mentality. We are more aware now that many are self-medicating in some way due to some level of anxiety, depression or mental illness diagnosis. Patience, gentleness, and long-suffering are mentioned a lot more in God’s Word than boundaries and “I’m done.”

Sometimes people need others who will suffer alongside them and help see them through very hard illnesses or the yet undiagnosed ones, and even years of poor life choices when they seriously desire help. Because of all I experienced over the years with my own Mom, I know those who often need the most help will not let you help them. At times, my Mom refused as well. This led to several crazy, frustrating and painful experiences. Sadly, this is why some end up alone, homeless and on the street. Visiting my Mom during hospital stays, I encountered numerous others whose families were no longer around. It can be exhausting. I am no one’s judge.

Sharing with understanding and empathy of how incredibly painful it is when someone you love so dearly is suffering due to a life altering illness or even temporary issues attacking their mental health.

For the long-suffering helpers who know God has said to you, “Stick around, endure. You are my hands and feet and the voice of hope to this one in need.” Be encouraged. You are not alone. Seek God’s guidance. Be still. Listen. Let the Holy Spirit lead.

Father God, we need Your peace, strength, wisdom, guidance, help, healing, rest, and patience in our long journeys of suffering personally and on behalf of those we love.

Your sister in Christ, Joyful Jenny